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All my tools. The psychic ability, the mediumship ability, the psychology ability, the spiritual understanding, and the knowing all directed themselves toward helping people believe in themselves first, because then I knew that was the foundation to open up the pathway. So it was not until I said, 'I don't know who I really am or what I'm really supposed to do,' that it was then revealed to me. Then my unconscious mind was able to say, 'Hey, he's got a chance here.' My soul was able to say, 'Let's start revealing it to him. Let's see what he says.' Sometimes we need to be brought to rock bottom to let go of some of those behaviors and habits. You have more of a chance of finding out who you really are and what your path is.

A friend of mine was deciding to become a life coach, and she said, 'I need some students to help me.' And each week we would meet, and she would tell me these interesting things. Then one day she turns around and she says, 'You know what I just discovered about you?' I said, 'What?' She said, 'You don't believe in yourself.' I said, 'What are you talking about? Of course I believe in myself. I wouldn't have come this far if I did. No, no, no.' No, no. You don't really believe in yourself. You faked it all along. I said, 'How can you say that?' And she kept repeating back to me some words that I said to her. And in listening to them, I was like, 'I said that?' And she said, 'Yes, you did.' I said, 'Seriously?' I said, 'Wow, I don't believe in myself, honey. I don't believe in myself.' And she said, 'I could have told you that.' That was the performer in me, right? I was always on stage in some way or another, needing to always impress somebody that I knew what I was doing. The way I transitioned from being a full-time actor to being a full-time psychic therapist, medium, and spiritual teacher is it came at that aha moment when I started believing in myself. All of a sudden, things started opening up for me. There were circumstances that led me directly into this occurring full-time. So it was presented before me as soon as I said, okay, I'm going to start believing in myself.

Everybody says that we are worth something. Just look at the information. Look at where we come from. That is a star. How can I be meaningless? I have to be worth something. I come from something greater than this. So you have to start with a belief. Beliefs are very empowering or disempowering, obviously. So you have to start with a positive belief. And even if it is something small, a snippet, something you heard that sounds good to you, all the truth is inside of us, and it begins to resonate and comes to the surface when you start really listening and keeping your ears open. We are unlimited beings. We are capable of changing even our past.

It is not a matter of a lack of awareness. It is a matter of lack of faith, a lack of trust. Because trust and fear, I mean most people do not trust themselves. Even if they do come up with an idea of, oh, I think I really want to do this, but I do not know, there were so many other things I tried and I failed at, so I am not going to try this either. So instead of you keep trying, you keep trying, you will find it. You really will. And maybe you have made mistakes before. You do not give up on that. That is the one thing that is like turning around and saying, 'Well, I am waking up today, but I do not want to breathe anymore, and I am going to stop breathing.' Breaking habits of disbelief and reclaiming power. But the point is that we are perpetuating an old habit. And it is a habit now. It has become a habit not to believe in ourselves.

You know what is really interesting? I loved Doris Day, and she came out with one of the most famous songs, Que Sera Sera, whatever will be will be. Horrible song. Absolutely horrible, because it gave away power. It gave away your desire. It is not about whatever will be will be. Life does not happen to us. We happen to life. We make life happen. But when you have and you keep perpetuating those kinds of beliefs, even in my own work with the serenity prayer, the serenity prayer gives away your power. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference between the two. That is so terrible to be thinking in this day and age that we cannot change everything. Yes, we can. So, of course, I turned it around. I made my own prayer. I call it the empowerment prayer. You know, God, grant me the conviction to believe there is nothing I cannot change, the courage to change all I want, and the wisdom to know what's best left the way it is. We are unlimited beings.

But it was hard in the beginning. I really have to admit that. I so desperately thought that I wanted it, and that's how you know you're grasping onto the wrong passion and purpose when you so desperately don't want to let it go. Desperation has nothing to do with ease and flow. It has nothing to do with the God source. It has nothing to do with our energy. All energy flows. Hey, you know, when you have a short circuit, that's when the energy doesn't flow anymore. Something is cutting it off, and it's going to go in different directions haphazardly. But when you release, and that, to me, is what surrendering really means, is surrendering your desperation and the need to, and always go for the want to and the whatever I am meant to have to. But when you are desperate and you want, that lets me know something is displaced there. Desperation is a negative word. It has a negative connotation. It has a negative energy. And when you let go of it, that is when you have a chance to be shown, this is what you are meant to be. And I promise you this, it is so much greater than what you thought it was meant to be.

I had my mother turn around and say to me, nothing good comes from the Jenners. Now, I could have continued to believe that. That would have been my choice. In the beginning, it was getting in my way. Yes. So I was my own obstacle because I was buying into somebody else's definition of who I was. Not my own, somebody else's definition. Not a divine source's definition, somebody else's. And it is not until we decide to define ourselves that we can step out of that ball and chain. So it is ourselves that get in our way, and it is ourselves that get us out of the way and can get us zooming to start with. We are unlimited beings. We are capable of changing even our past, and it's been scientifically proven and shown.

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Why we need more mentoring and community support. There is no mentoring, not enough mentoring. We need to help mentor others into believing in themselves, finding their passion, finding their purpose. I even have my own course that I teach. Ed Casey was fabulous for that in the material that he had laid out in discovering your soul's purpose while you're here. They will say, 'Here, just buy my book. Just do the work in it. You're fine,' rather than, let me show you, here you have a problem, call me up, let me connect with you. You are so worth going after your dream. I can help you with that. If you need any help.

I have to say, I was a gifted singer and actor as a little kid. I am Italian, Sicilian based, we have big voices. I was able to sing, and I put that to great use during the times that I was being tormented. I would perform, and that applause kept me going. And so I was interpreting that as, it must mean that that is what I was supposed to pursue, rather than realizing that it was just a resilience I had and that it was meant to lead me in a higher direction. So it was not until all of this began to transpire, and I was being told, or I was feeling from within, you really can help some people with what you have been through and what you know now. And I was like, well, wait a minute now. I wonder if that is the reason why I had all those earlier gifts, because I can still use those to help people today and to really reach them and touch their souls. So that was a moment of a real aha for me. I'm an entertainer. I use that in helping people believe in themselves. You know, it was said in a very famous movie, a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down. Well, the type of medicine we need today needs a gallon of honey. So I do as much as I can to make people laugh, to make them enjoy, and then serve them the deep stuff.

I'll call it God. I don't mind. Spirit, source, Yahweh, Elohim, whatever anybody refers to as this higher entity. And I turned to God, I said, listen, you need to help me here. I'm not getting what I think I'm supposed to be getting here. So you have to let me know what I need to do, what I need to do. And the greatest story occurred. I have the ability, and I will say that it is a confidence, the confidence to be able to admit you don't have the answer. So I turn to, well, I turn to God a lot. The universe will put people in your life that will turn you this way instead of that way. And as long as you go along with it and it seems so much easier, then you know you are getting on your path. We always make a blueprint for ourselves. And I always tell people the way you truly find if you are on the right path is if things lay out before you easier than the struggle you are having finding them. So when that happens, that is when the universe starts guiding you to opportunities, starts placing before you better directions, and even people.

When I was growing up, I was completely tormented as a child. I was abused all the time, whether it be emotionally, physically, even sexually. I had all of that that was going against me. So it tore away my own self-belief. And she turns around and knocked me for a loop, rocked my world, to turn around and say that I didn't believe in myself. And when I examined that, I realized how much I didn't believe in myself. I realized that, wait, wow, that's really harsh for me to have come this far in my life, and when little Vinnie had already been through so much that I did not believe in him. And that hurt, and that is what made me realize that is why I even wrote the book that I wrote and did the work that I did, because it made me understand that that belief or disbelief was hidden from me and protected. And the reason why I was protected is because it was so hurtful to recognize. To come to an understanding that I did not believe in myself, that turned everything around for me. As hard as it was to recognize that, it was the greatest gift besides receiving these other gifts. That was my greatest gift, being able to say, 'Vincent, you do not believe in yourself enough, so now you have to work on that.'

If a person does not believe in themselves, if they do not think they are good enough, deserving enough, or worthy enough, why would their unconscious mind, their soul's mind, ever reveal to them what they are meant to do? Because it would be more painful to know what your dream is and not have the courage or the belief to go after it. So it is actually a defense mechanism for a lot of people. It is not easy to believe you do not believe in yourself. It is not easy to hear you do not think you are good enough, or that you are worthy enough, or that you are deserving enough to achieve your dreams, to achieve your purpose. And that is what made me realize that is why that is all hidden, because we could not function on a daily basis walking around with that. Everybody asked me how I began to believe in myself. And it seems like such a simple answer. Well, you just believe in yourself. The process is always easy. It is the practice that is difficult, because you have got to remember the scars are there. They are ingrained inside of you. Every injury causes a scar. So even when you are trying to believe in yourself, every so often little Vinnie wants to pop his head up. He wants to turn around and still say, 'I am not good enough.' I have to keep giving him the evidence that I am good, that I am believing enough, I am worthy and good enough and deserving enough. The biggest obstacle I had to face in living my purpose was me. Me, Vincent. I am my only obstacle, and you are your only obstacle. Nothing else comes in your way and gets in your way of your dreams, your purpose, your passions, except you and your disbeliefs.