Focus On Something Bigger Than Yourself

If someone is feeling a bit lost and they don't feel like they have a purpose, the main thing I would say is stop looking for it inside yourself. The absolute key that we see in all of the research is when you shift your focus away from yourself. It's not about you, it's about other people. What can you do to help? We see this in social connection in the research as well. To build social connections, you have to stop thinking about what you're going to get from a social interaction and start thinking about what you can give to that interaction. If you start small and just think, where can I help? What can I do? It doesn't have to be an immediate mission straight away, but just those small little actions of focusing away from yourself, looking at where you can actually help someone else, give something to an interaction. I think the mission and the purpose will follow from there. The rationale behind that is similar to what I was saying before. If you're focused on a greater mission, a greater purpose, it's something that is beyond you, so you're not focused on your own physical well-being. You don't have that stress. You're focused beyond yourself. That personal selfish stress melts away and you're passionate about this bigger picture. It's something that will live on beyond you, that is important regardless of the small things that happen to you, and that seems to be very powerful in terms of people's physical and emotional health.