Purpose Lab Resources

For me, finding my passion was a sequence. It was a serious series for me. It was a set of moments. And the first moment was in 2012. I had a dream, a literal dream while I was sleeping, and I woke up with the name "She's the Universe" – in my head. And I didn't know what to do with this but later it became the name of my non-profit organization supporting teenage girls. This was so strange for me. but I trusted it. I didn't know how to trust myself then, but I bought a domain name. I took action in the way that I knew how to take action.

My passion, my purpose, why I came into this world is to support the next generation of teenage girls. Because I believe they're going to be a very, very important part of our next evolution as humans, as us, where we're going, I feel like we need them. And I feel they've been left behind. What I feel like I'm here to do is to support them so that they can rise up, and meet us all there.

Our internal compass is our intuition. It is a part of us specially for women, this part of us that tells us what's aligned and what isn't. And that for me as a traveler that tells me when I was in the wrong place and when to trust people. A lot of the time, we learn, as women in many societies, that it is not okay to trust ourselves and especially to trust our bodies. And intuition has to do a lot with the intelligence of the body. And when we stop trusting our bodies, basically we stop trusting ourselves too. And this compass is just our intuition.

There's something else that once you're paying attention, what you think is your intuition, is just your logic. In my case, that was what my logic was telling me "You can't do that". My insecurities flared up, asking "What do you know about this? You don't know anything about it?" And yeah, I didn't know anything because I've never done it before. But now I do. I've been doing it for two years and it's been great. I mean, I'm learning every day and that's amazing. I'm serving girls. Do your best to deal with your doubts. It's like I want to know what's next. And I want to have a book with all the answers. Then I remember there's no book, there's no right answers. There's only one little step that you take and another little step, and then more steps. Then one day you look back and there's a road that you built yourself and yes, there are a lot of challenges, especially when you're trying to dismantle an identity of who you thought you were.

There's two main paths. One is through your joy. What makes you so happy, something that you want to do all the time? You just want to do this and you feel that you are meant to do this. Another path for me to get into that purpose is to find what breaks your heart. What is it that, when you see it, you feel like, someone should do something about it and then you do it? For me, it's to see women and girls who are amazing but cannot see their own brilliance. That heartbreak led to this. It was not a joyful thing. It was just the heartbreak of, wow, why are there not more women leaders? Why are women not feeling free? Why why why why why. And in that search, that search led to my purpose, that heartbreak. To let the heartbreak lead to the breakthrough.

I feel like there are many paths to finding your purpose, but I've found that I get goosebumps, and that's how my body alerts me when I've located some truth. I get goosebumps when something's true.

Part of finding my purpose I realized was to face this old version of myself and decide that I needed to be someone new. But I was having a hard time marrying those two parts of me. And because I felt I should have. It's hard for me to let go of that part of me that that I know so well, that knows how to make money so well, that knows how to be human in this world where we actually need money to do all the things that I want to do that we all want to do. At the beginning, it was very scary because I've been in that place many times, and I feel like I'm in a different level of that fear now. It's like I'm at the edge looking down and thinking," okay, I've done this before because we've all done this before in one way or another. We've made big choices in life at some point, and we're still here." But sometimes I forget. And I look down and think, "wow, there's such a big void." It's very scary. I get how scary this can be, but also what I'm learning is just to trust that I know what ...

Like food, like air people need to feel like they belong. So at that age, when you start to try to belong and you start listening to what other people want from you, and what other people think is best for you, while trying to fit in you can become easily influenced and conditioned. Because we're all trying to fit in, all the time. But at that age, around teenagehood, it's so, so strong, and you feel you're going to die if you don't belong. And in that search of belonging, we lose ourselves sometimes because we think that we need to be like everybody else. We forget that we came here as beautiful, unique individuals with something so beautiful inside. It was our gifts, our talents, something that we came here to do. And for me, it took me so long to reconnect with that part of myself because I got lost in trying to do life the way that life was supposed to be, so that I could also fit in.